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My wife doesn't support me

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Posted by RogerNH on 5 years ago

I'm looking for advice. I really want to start juicing to lose weight but my wife doesn't support me. She thinks to whole idea is stupid. She even refuses to watch "Fat, Sick, & Nearly Dead". She does the grocery shopping and she told me she will not buy the fruits and veggies I need for juicing. I haven't started juicing yet because I'm afraid it'll hurt our marriage. She says that she doesn't want to cook dinner for her and the kids while I sit at the dinner table drinking a juice. I find all of this ridiculous. My wife could really benefit from juicing as well but she is nursing out two month old son. I suffer from headaches and I generally feel awful because I'm overweight. What can I do to open her eyes and let me do this?

This topic contains 19 replies, has 1 voices, and was last updated by SluggoCRX 5 years ago.

Replies To My wife doesn't support me

  • TeelaHerman.com

    5 years ago

    Well, you don't want her to do a reboot while she is nursing, for sure. That's not safe. She can add juices to her diet, but she won't want to replace meals.

    Just coming from a woman, and I don't know your wife so I don't know if she is anything like me at all, but she might be feeling insecure about herself, especially since she's just given birth. It's a very hard time emotionally and physically. And she might feel that by you refusing to eat with the family, you are pulling away from the family.

    Can you go to her and talk to her about it and tell her you understand that eating with the family is important, so maybe if you both can compromise: you juice for breakfast and lunch, then enjoy a healthy dinner together as a family and then she has to watch the documentary with you, that way she can understand the process more, therefore support you more. Come at it from the, "I really want and need your support in this." And explain that the documentary will help her understand it more.

    I think if you start out replacing two meals a day, not only is that reasonable, it's a smart way to ease into a reboot and I'm sure that your wife will eventually warm up to the idea of a long term reboot. And eventually, who knows!?! Maybe when she's done nursing, she will join you!

    I hope that helps?

    I totally get where you are coming from...but I also know where she is because I've been there before twice myself. ((Hugs)) to the both of you.

    And snuggle that little boy for me. I have three of my own and they grow up way too fast!

    -Teela

  • SluggoCRX

    5 years ago

    Considering that people "normally" think in a 3-meal mind set of a day, where Breakfast lasts the person until noon and Lunch lasts them until dinner (anywhere from 5PM till 8PM depending on the person: I find it hard to phatom that replacing 2 meals will successfully be done with 2 Juices. Think about, it's recommended that people on a Reboot drink 6 juices (16 oz to 20 oz). 2 juices will not last someone from 7AM to 6 PM, 3 might 4 would probably be best. Additionally, if you have 4 juices, when you sit down for dinner it will be easier to Not Pigout.... just my 2 cents worth

  • RogerNH

    5 years ago

    Thank you Teela for the response. I will talk to my wife about it and I think you're right about juicing during the day and have a healthy dinner with the family. Once my wife is finished nursing our son, I hope I can convince her to Reboot too. Thanks!

  • TeelaHerman.com

    5 years ago

    You absolutely will see results by replacing your two meals during the day and then having a healthy dinner and maying cutting back the portions, too. And I love gowiggle's advice on offering to do all of the fruit and veggie shopping. She might make you do it in the beginning, but I'm sure as time goes on, she won't mind doing it herself because she is going to want to support you.

    Just keep showering her with love and attention. Keep telling her how amazing she is and what a beautiful woman she is and how lucky you and your son are to have her as your son's mother. Keep building her up and she will have no choice but to want to build you up, too. :)

    You guys are going to do just great!

  • RoyalsFan

    5 years ago

    I agree with handling it the exact way that Teela mentioned. And when I was younger with babies, I did bark a lot at my husband, I did try to control things more and listen to his needs less. He never explained his feelings to me or his reasoning, and if you can do that with your wife, she will understand you better.... btw - if you juice two times a day and eat one meal, you will see AMAZING RESULTS and so will your wife. She will then see that you are serious about your health but still love her lots too. Your headaches will definitely improve and be less often... among other health and mental clarity benefits... Good Luck Roger NH...... JUICE ON! / Baby Boomer

  • gowiggle

    5 years ago

    Teela's advice is great and a good start. Also offer to do your own grocery shopping for the juicing too so she does not have to take that on, so that it is absolutely no inconvenience for her. Tell her that you really want to make this work for both of you and as easily as possible. Maybe at some point you can make a yummy juice that she will try... she may start to turn the corner on it. Good luck and keep us posted!!!

  • RoyalsFan

    5 years ago

    gowiggle, I like your suggestion of offering to do his own grocery shopping.... that is an overwhelming task for even us juicers. let alone someone who isn't interested in juicing and new mom at that.... GREAT SUGGESTION...... EVERYBODY SHOULD DO THEIR OWN SHOPPING! JUICE ON JUICERS!!!

  • lizzie41

    5 years ago
    Hi Roger, your 2 month old says it all, got to give your wife some space here. Your wife sounds stressed from having a new baby and maybe the pressure of having to do something new when she may already be overloaded with new baby life etc. Does she do the cooking, maybe you could take that over and introduce some juicing. Also maybe in a few weeks/months she may feel differently. Smoothies may be good to try. keep strong xx
  • spartancub

    5 years ago

    Hey Roger, wow, I can totally relate to what you are going through! I'm temporarily living back with my parents, and they think the whole reboot/juice thing is a 'fad' and 'ridiculous'. They refuse to even try a sip of the juices I make at home, and both of them are in their 60's and could really benefit from the juice! I am on Day 6 and continuing to focus on my personal goal to be healthier (and hopefully lose about 50 lbs), and have to realize that they just don't understand and that is where they are at.... but when they start seeing the change in me, I think they might be more interested to learn about it. Like Joe said in the movie - when you start this, "be prepared for your mates to think you're crazy!". So true. I feel for you, but I admire your strength in doing this, it really will work, and all these obstacles will resolve themselves in time. Feel free to message me if you wanna chat more. I'm in California, not sure where you are. Hang in there bro.

  • spartancub

    5 years ago

    P.S. - I have suffered from regular headaches like you mentioned.... hoping those will go away with me juicing now and eating healthy

  • Marcus_uk

    5 years ago
    Hey – sorry to hear about your predicament. So my thoughts……. 1. Probably take the advice above – they seem intelligent and sensible. If not, I would suggest……. 2. Juice at work and share a meal with her in the evening – the best of both worlds. When she sees your health and weight loss, she may chill out a bit. 3. Juicing wont effect your marriage. Running off with her sister, taking drugs, or spending your month’s salary on the latest computer gadget will. Good luck
  • Phatcruiser

    5 years ago

    A couple of things, sounds like yor wife may be afraid of the social change that will happen if you juice. It seems like its important to her that you participate in the evening meal. I've been married for 21 years and I learned that if I participate in the house work/cooking she is so grateful that MY needs are met with happiness and enthusiasm. I may be reading more into your post but it sounds like your wife does most of the cooking and cleaning. If this is the case it is ALOT of work. Plus taking care of children. I can understand her frustration.

    If your juicing will hurt your marriage you may have more serious problems to address.

    You want to know what will help? You prepare meals for your family and help relive some of her stress. If you chip in more she might realize how serious you are and it could only help your cause. if you seek to meet her needs first she will LOVE to meet yours.

  • Baysidebob

    5 years ago

    Hi Roger. I know where you are. Cooking is my wife's primary activity since we retired. A "juice fast" by me would have created more problems than it would have solved. I started juicing twice a day with a normal dinner on Labor Day (early September). I now juice once a day and eat clean once a day and "normal" once a day which is usually dinner but if we go out for lunch we skip dinner. I don't eat meat more than once in a day and often not at all in a day. Dairy is way down. A bit of goat cheese on salad or sour cream on a bean burrito. I have become a "careful eater". My weight is down, energy up, immune system is invulnerable and have had no illness since I started juicing. Well, I did have the sniffles for a few days but not the full-on cold I would have had. I bought a small fridge just for my produce. Enough for a few days at a time and I don't want to store veggies longer than that. I juice every day and that's it! I'll have dinner or lunch with you and enjoy it but don't fix my plate, I'll put what I want on it in the amounts I want. It took almost 4 months for her to adjust to that. Good luck, Roger. You can give and give and give but at some point you have to draw a line.

  • spartancub

    5 years ago

    RogerNH - so how is it going? I haven't seen any posts from you since you posted this originally a few days ago.... did you talk to your wife about it? are you juicing? hope you are doing well

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